I think by now you know what my opinion of oral sex on Dan is and how we talked the matter out as it is important to talk about sex and sexual preferences with each other. May be that is why Dan and I have a very healthy sexual life, because we not only jump in and out of bed but also have our pillow talks (isn’t this a cute name for behind-closed-doors-talks?) Dan and I love our pillow-talks – it is enriching and it is bringing us closer together. But I am getting off the point.
Honestly speaking, I don’t like perform oral sex for the sole reason of the taste but we talked it out, compromised and on my terms I still give it. I think even Dan enjoys it more as he does not know when I am going to give it to him!
It is therefore a common fact that some women are not keen on giving oral sex to their husbands or friends. It is no use to force it on any woman as it would only have a negative impact on a relationship.
When anyone has a back off towards something, the first thing to do is to investigate why they feel that way. After a few years of marriage or relationship, you probably have a pretty good idea what is that turns your wife or partner off to the deed. For many women, the turn off is the taste, the smell or both. If this is the case for your wife or partner, it can easily be overcome by engaging in oral sex just after a shower, in the actual shower, a bath or pool. She could also try and cover any taste or smell by pouring a little champagne, wine, juice or other desired beverage, and then licking it off. With a little creativity your options are endless.
When taste is not the turn off, you’re probably running into one of two things: she is actually repulsed by the idea of giving oral sex, or she just doesn’t know how or what to do. If she is indeed repulsed, I would suggest talking about how great it would feel, and how much you would enjoy for her to do it. Then if she is willing, maybe start with baby steps such as doing it over clothes or a thin material until she feels she could actually make skin-to-skin contact.
If you feel she might be embarrassed or unsure about how to go about it, talk it out like we did. But please gentlemen, never force it on your woman.
Janet
Just trying to be helpful, even though my advice is completely unsolicited, so take it for what it is worth… there are ceratin foods you can eat, and avoid, that will make it taste MUCH better.
By: ladyteacher on March 30, 2008
at 2:19 pm